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Neurodivergent K, on parents:
If you feel ‘demonized’ by someone with a disability calling out problematic behavior, then maybe you need to look at yourself and why you feel hurt, especially if you insist you aren’t Like That. If you are so deeply hurt by hearing about specific things that specific shitty parents have done, dig deep inside yourself and figure out why that is.
The community debate is still rumbling, and likely to do so for a very long time. For the record, I’m pretty much of the ‘you can only be a member of the autistic community if you’re autistic’ side of things, with NT parents/friends/colleagues being (hopefully) allies. This fits with the ‘only a member of the GLBTQ community if you’re GLBTQ’ “only a member of the Jewish community if you’re a Jew’ and so on.
And a large part of this stems from the knowledge that not all parents (or carers) seem to be allies. And why should neurotypical people who behave badly get a free pass into the community, a pass that lets them actively work to silence voices of autistic people?
In fact, some seem to be woefully uninformed, and have little or no interest in understanding autism.
Neurodivergent K, again, on a carer:
She thought I was kidding. I wasn’t. She quit shortly after-apparently apologizing to a just turned 10 year old was beneath her, or to an autistic kid, or being told to by an autistic adult, I dunno.